1-2-3 Magic!

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1-2-3 magic ! ~~~~~~~~~~~ Thomas W. Phelan, ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~ The following is a summary of the key points offered by Dr. Thomas Phelan in the above titled book. It may be helpful to read the entire book for more examples and clarification. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~ There are two kinds of behavior problems parents must deal with, and they require separate discipline techniques. 2 kinds of behavior problems: -STOP behaviors -Things you want your child to STOP doing -Frequent everyday issues, minor, such as whining, throwing tantrums, or yelling -Use 1-2-3 counting procedure -START behaviors -Things you want your child to START doing -Positive activities such as cleaning her room, going to bed, or doing homework -Use praise, simple requests, natural consequences, docking system, kitchen timer, charting, or 1-2-3 counting variation **An important point to remember is that children are not little adults!

A key element of 1-2-3 Magic is the “no talking, no emotion” rule. This means that when you are using counting as discipline, you do not talk, explain, or rationalize with your child, and you

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