1/ The Christian Codependence Recovery Workbook: From …

1 1/ The Christian Codependence Recovery workbook : From Surviving to Significanceby Stephanie TuckerPublished by: Spirit of Life Recovery Resources18652 Florida Street, Suite 200 Huntington Beach, CA 92648 All monies from the sale of this book will help accomplish our mission. Spirit of Life Recovery supports people struggling with emotional and spiritual challenges, includ-ing addiction and Codependence . Spirit of Life Recovery is a 501(c)(3) non-profit Christian Ministry Fed tax #27-3278002. To learn more, visit book is protected by copyright laws.

2 Except as permitted under the Copy-right Act of 1976, no part of this publication may be reproduced, distributed, or trans-mitted in any form or by any means, or stored in a database or retrieval system, with-out the prior written permission of the publisher, Spirit of Life Recovery Resources. Copyright 2010 Spirit of Life Recovery . All rights reserved. Unless otherwise indicated, all Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright 1996, 2004. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.

3 , Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved. Scriptures marked (MSG) taken from The Message. Copyright 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002. Used by permission of NavPress Publishing stories and examples may or may not be based on actual clinical situations; how-ever, where applicable, names have been changed to protect privacy. This book is not necessarily intended to diagnose or treat your individual issues. If you are in a serious or life-threatening situation, please get professional help immedi-ately. This book is by no means intended to replace the need for professional and/or medical treatment.

4 For grammar, editorial or any other issues pertaining to the quality of the production 2/ The Christian Codependence Recovery Workbook3/ The Christian Codependence Recovery Workbook: From Surviving to Significance THIRD REVISION Written by Stephanie Tucker4/ The Christian Codependence Recovery Workbook5/ Acknowledgements Thank you to my best friend, partner, mentor and husband, Dr. Robert Tucker. Your passionate pursuit towards helping people encounter freedom through the blood of Je-sus Christ is evident in all you do.

5 You have been a guiding influence in my understanding of the nature of addiction and the reality of spiritual warfare. How blessed I am to share, learn, grow, love and experience the fullness of a relationship designed God s way with you. A special thanks to the students who participated in our first workshop training when this workbook came to fruition. Your encouragement, testimonies and absolute com-mitment to God s solution inspired me. May God bless and prosper your faithfulness. Chris G.

6 Dawn S. 3 Bob Heather R. Juliet V. Kenny G. Mike L. Mike B. M Liss S. Patrick S. Randall O. Roxanna G. Tia D. Theresa G. Tracy C. 6/ The Christian Codependence Recovery Workbook7/ DedicationTo the men and women who suffer from the soul sickness of Codependence . May you learn, understand and be set free through the true Healer. There is a life of passion, purpose and fulfillment awaiting you. To my precious Bob - without you as my God-given husband, this book would have never been written. You are my rock and my covering.

7 You dealt with the pressures and challenges that came about while working on this project whilemanaging minis-try and two little girls. Thank you for loving me through it. To my beautiful girls, Arianna and Isabella - you are my precious gifts from God who teach me even more deeply the love of our Father in Heaven. I count you as the more important fruit in my life that I will ever have the honor to bear. And most important, to my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. For all You ve given me, rescued me from and delivered me out of, Your grace is always sufficient.

8 This is written through You and for You, may You be glorified in it. 8/ The Christian Codependence Recovery Workbook9/ Prefaceby Stephanie Tucker, MDAAC, RAS, I know so well what it s like to be skeptical. I studied every book, theology, church and belief system imaginable in a desperate quest for life s meaning. With so much information, so many conflicting truths and so much of a disconnect between the Bible and psychology, it seemed sifting to find answers was merely impossible. The answers to what?

9 To life. To relationships. To love. I wanted to know why my life didn t work. I wanted to know how the Bible, if it really spoke truth, would help me. I found it frustrating that somehow a Bible scripture was meant to apply to me personally, when on the inside, I was so messed up and simply could not make its claims real in my life. While I certainly won t say I have all the answers, I know that there came a point in my life when I cried out for help. All my responsible choices, efforts, attempts to figure it out and obsession to hold it together left me utterly confused, helpless, hopeless and filled with despair.

10 At my lowest point, I asked Jesus Christ to reveal Himself to me, no matter what the cost might be. What I found in my state of brokenness is the place I believe every human being that ever existed so deeply desires - a sweet, intimate place of resting in the love, care, guid-ance, nurturing, protection and kindness of my Lord and Savior. Oh, I knew His theology before. I knew what the Bible taught about Him. I just didn t know Him. He wasn t a real Person up until the moment that I truly came into a relationship with Him based on His love and grace towards me.