8th STEP WORKSHEET - Harbor Hall Addiction …

1 8th step worksheet made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. to AA Big Book pg 76. Fill in the blanks of this paragraph: We have a list of all persons we have harmed and to whom we are willing to make amends. We made it when we took inventory. We subjected ourselves to a _____. Now we go out to our fellows and repair the damage done in the past. We attempt to sweep away the debris which has accumulated out of our effort to live on self-will and run the show ourselves. If we haven't the will to do this, we ask until it comes. Remember it was agreed at the beginning _____. the persons you have harmed (emotionally, physically, sexually, relationally, etc). Explain theside-effects that resulted from the harm you caused.

2 Example: My mother doesn t trust me now .Person Harmed The harm affected the person in the following way(s).. Chaplain Dan Thompson, Director of Spiritual Care Harbor Hall Substance Abuse Treatment Center, Petoskey Michigan 3. From the previous list, write down the persons names whom you are willing to make direct amends: Person Harmed Briefly explain why you are willing to make amends with this person. 4. Now, write the person s name whom you are NOT willing to make direct amends: Person Harmed Briefly explain why you are NOT willing to make amends. Chaplain Dan Thompson, Director of Spiritual Care Harbor Hall Substance Abuse Treatment Center, Petoskey Michigan 5.

3 Turn to the book, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, pg 77-78, and fill in the blanks in this paragraph: _____ in the greatest peace, partnership and brotherhood with all men and women, of whatever description, is a moving and fascinating adventure. Every has found that he can make little headway in this new adventure of living _____ of the human wreckage he has left in his wake. To a degree, he has already done this when taking moral inventory, but now the time has come when he ought to redouble his efforts to see how many people he has hurt, and in what ways. This reopening of emotional wounds, some old, some perhaps forgotten, and some still painfully festering, will at first look like a purposeless and pointless piece of surgery.

4 But _____, then the great advantages of doing this will so quickly reveal themselves that the pain will be lessened as one obstacle after another melts away. 6. The following paragraph is found on page 83 of Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. Explain what you understand about the sentences that are underlined, and if possible, explain a relatable situation with a person you have harmed. After we have made a list of people we have harmed, have reflected carefully upon each instance, and have tried to possess ourselves of the right attitude in which to proceed, we will see that the making of direct amends divides those we should approach into several classes: (1) There will be those who ought to be dealt with just as soon as we become reasonably confident that we can maintain our sobriety.

5 (2)There will be those to whom we can make only partial restitution, lest complete disclosures do them or others more harm than good. (3) There will be other cases where action ought to be deferred, (4) and still others in which by the very nature of the situation we shall never be able to make direct personal contact at all. Chaplain Dan Thompson, Director of Spiritual Care Harbor Hall Substance Abuse Treatment Center, Petoskey Michigan 7. Plan how you will communicate your amends with those persons you ve identified. Options may include: writing a letter, speaking by phone, talking face to face. Use the sections below to draft a specific statement that you will say. (Consult with sponsor after you complete the following list.)

6 Person Harmed Briefly explain your plan of connecting & communicating your amends Chaplain Dan Thompson, Director of Spiritual Care Harbor Hall Substance Abuse Treatment Center, Petoskey Michigan 9th step WORKSHEET made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. 1. Turn to the AA Big Book, pg 79, and fill in the blanks of this paragraph: Although these reparations take innumerable forms, there are some general principles which we find guiding. Reminding ourselves that _____ to find a spiritual experience, we ask that we be given strength and direction to do the right thing, no matter what the personal consequences may be.

7 We may lose our position or reputation or face jail, _____. We have to be. We must not shrink at anything. 2. Having made direct amends to such people wherever possible , what was the outcome? Did you follow your plan from the 8th step worksheet ? Explain the results below for each person you were willing to go meet. Person Harmed Result of your plan to make amends Chaplain Dan Thompson, Director of Spiritual Care Harbor Hall Substance Abuse Treatment Center, Petoskey Michigan