Counsels On Courtship and Marriage

1 Contents i _____ Counsels On Courtship and Marriage _____ Statements by ELLEN G. WHITE Compiled by Biant If those who are contemplating Marriage would not have miserable, unhappy reflections after Marriage , they must make it a subject of serious, earnest reflection now. This step taken unwisely is one of the most effective means of ruining the usefulness of young men and women Printed and Published by The Advent Truth PO Box 41 Derby DE1 9ZR ENGLAND Contents ii Table of Contents Foreword iii introduction -- I Love You 1

2 From the Bible 1 From the Writings of Ellen G. White 3 Section 1 -- Marriage --a Foretaste of Heaven 4 God Both Ordained & Approves of Marriage 4 Make your Courtship Last Throughout your Marriage 5 Letter 5 Marriage Is Like Christ's Love For His Chosen People 5 Married Life Gets Better and Better 6 A Happy or Unhappy Marriage ?

3 6 Make Haste Slowly 6 Section 2 -- Finding the Right Mate 8 Vital Factors in the Choice 8 Marriages Wrecked by Incompatibility 8 Adapted to Each Other 8 Disparity in Age 9 Preparation for Marriage is an Essential Part of Education 9 A Knowledge of Homemaking Is Indispensable 10 Give Attention to the Principles of hygiene 10 What a Young Man Should Look for in a Wife 10 Letter 11 Questions a Girl Should Ask Before Marriage 12 The Prospective Husband Should be Thrifty & Industrious 12 Letter 12 Husbands Should not be Over-bearing 14 Both Parties are Responsible

4 14 Section 3 -- Uniting With Unbelievers 15 God's Commands Are Plain 15 Can Two Walk Together Except They Be Agreed? 15 Risking the Enjoyments of Heaven 16 Solomon's Example 17 Letter 17 Letter 18 Perpetual Differences in a Divided Home 19 A Safe Marriage Alliance 19 When One Partner Is Converted After Marriage 20 Easier to Make a Mistake Than to Correct

5 It 20 Will You Gamble with Your Marriage ? 20 Section 4 -- Looking for Help? 21 Youth Need the Wisdom of Age and Experience 21 Have I Made The Right Choice? 21 Letter 22 Letter 23 Matured Judgement of Parents Should be Valued 23 Parents to Guide the Affections of Youth 24 Contents iii Parents Entitles to Love, Honour and Respect 24 The Example Set by Isaac 25 Letter 25 Section 5 -- Is It Really Love?

6 27 True Love Verses Passion 27 Love Must Be Worked At 27 The Power of Love 28 When Love is Blind 28 The Aftermath of Blind Love 29 Experience of Others a Warning 29 True Religion Ensures Love & Happiness 29 Letter 30 Section 6 -- Courtship 32 Wrong Ideas of Courtship

7 And Marriage 32 Keeping Late Hours 32 Sowing Wild Oats 32 Deceptive Practices 33 Break the Engagement if Necessary 33 Results of Unwise Courtship and Marriage 33 Section 7 -- In Control 34 Power in Christ for Self-control 34 Christianity to be a Controlling Influence 34 Sentimentalism to be Shunned as leprosy 34

8 Caution to a Youthful Student 34 Guard the Affections 35 Dangers of Childhood Attachments 35 Potential Workers for God Entangled 35 counsel to a Teenage Youth 36 Letter 36 Letter 37 Don't Be Squeezed into the World's Mould 38 Pornography and Your Mind 39 Section 8 -- Sexual Responsibility 40 counsel to a Romantic, Lovesick Girl.

9 40 Sexual Responsibility of Young Christians 40 Avoid the First Downward Step 40 Letter 41 Letter 42 Letter 43 Letter 43 Trifling with Hearts 44 Women Must Uphold a High Standard of Conduct 44 Beware of Flattery 45 Letter 45 How to be Kept from Straying 46 Section 9 -- Marrying and Giving in Marriage .

10 47 Section 10 -- The Mutual Obligations of Husband and Wife. 48 Bibliography 49 Foreword