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1 Myreretratrackingckingfolderretrackingre trackingname:MY FAVOURITE/ LEASTFAVOURITE THINGSLOVESHATES pageA6 COLOUR FOOD musicBANDTV PROGMAGAZINEPLACEPERSONTEACHERSPORTBOOKC OMPUTER GAMEIMPORTANT PEOPLE IN MY LIFE1. List below all the people who are important to Next to their names put L for Like or D for the next column indicate by number, from 1 to 7 (1 = most liked, 7 = least liked), how much you like you can, briefly give your Put an L in the next column if they like you, or D if they don In the following column indicate by number (as in 3.) how much you think that they like Give your reasons or dlike/dislikel or dHow much?1 - 7 How much?1 - 7 Why?Why? pageA10kindwarmhumouroushard workingcruelexcitinguncooperativedulltho ughtfulanxiousunattractivefailureeven temperedquick thinkingstupidlovableaggressivevindictiv eloyaljealousboringhonesthelpfullazyhapp ygreedyfunnynastyinterestingreliabledish onestsuccessfuldepressedpopularimpulsive carelesswell organisedgentlecraftysensibleintelligent sadgood lookingrelaxedangry WHAT AM I?

2 DRAW A CIRCLE AROUND THE WORDS WHICH DESCRibE YOU THE MOSTMY JOURNEY SO FARB elow is a map of the journey that you have been on since your birth until on the road any important events which have stuck on your you ever reached any cross roads or junctions where you might have chosen adifferent route? If so draw, these you need more space then draw your own map on a separate piece of MORE ABOUT ME ..I FEEL HAPPy WHENI HATEI WISH THAT I WAS I WORRY ABOUTTHE THING THAT MAKES ME ANGRY ISMOST PEOPLE THINK THAT I AMI FEEL JEALOUS WHENWHEN PEOPLE SHOUT AT ME I FEELWHEN I LEAVE SCHOOL I HOPE THATIT MAKES ME FEEL CONFUSED WHENTHE BEST THING THAT COULD HAPPEN TO ME ISI FEEL GUILTY WHENTHE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN MY LIFE ISI FEEL SUCCESSFUL WHENI THINK THAT I HURT OTHERS WHEN pageA12 I AM GOOD AT ..Circle the things that you are good calmlistening to peoplesaying thanksasking questionsmaking others laughcontrolling my tempertalking to new peoplesaying sorryhelping othersbeing sympatheticresisting pressures / saying NOtalking about myselfshowing I like peopletalking to the opposite sexgiving complimentstalking to my parentstaking turns / being fairtalking to my teacherssharing / giving FRIENDS AND OTHERSTRUE OR FALSE?

3 I have got lots of friendsTRUEFALSEMy parents like my friendsTRUE FALSEI have a good social lifeTRUE FALSEMy friends sometimes get me into troubleTRUE FALSEI sometimes get my friends into troubleTRUE FALSEI am able to keep my friends TRUE FALSEMost of my friends are older than meTRUE FALSEI have hobbies and interestsTRUE FALSEO ther people copy what I doTRUE FALSEI copy what other people doTRUE FALSEI like to be the centre of attentionTRUE FALSEMy social life is more important to me than school TRUE FALSET here is nothing to do where I liveTRUE FALSEMy parents restrict my social lifeTRUE FALSEI need lots of excitement in my lifeTRUE FALSE pageA16 TARGET SETTING What do YOU think are the areas of your school life that have room for improvement?

4 Which are the bits that let you down, leave you feeling frustrated, get you into troubleor make you feel a failure?What would you like to set as improvement targets for the future?AREACOMMENT readingspellinghandwritingmathssciencela nguagesPEtechnologyhumanitiesclassroom behaviourplayground behaviourrelationships with staffrelationships with other studentspageA18 CONCERNS ABOUT MYSELFH aving had a chance now to have a look at yourself in the first section of RETRACKING,perhaps it s time to have a think about your main anxieties and worries. Look backthrough some of the early worksheets and try to pick out five main concerns about you feel that you have the power to effect any of these problem areas? WHAT DO OTHER PEOPLETHINK OF ME?Our behaviour is often very different, depending upon who we are with and where we are. How do you think other people see you?

5 Below are a number of statements which others may, or may not, use to describe a different colour for friends, parents and teachers, draw a circle around thephrases which people might use to describe you. It is quite possible that somestatements may have more than one M GOOD FUN TO BE WITHI CAN ALWAYS BE TRUSTEDI AM CLEVER I CAN T BE BOTHERED ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINKI HAVE TROUBLE CONTROLLING MY TEMPERI HAVE A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOURI DON T CARE ABOUT THE FUTUREI CARE ABOUT OTHER PEOPLEI NEVER SHARE MY FEELINGSI TAKE LIFE VERY SERIOUSLYI ALWAYS THINK OF MYSELFI DO EXCITING THINGSI AM NOTHING BUT TROUBLEI AM generousOTHERS CONCERNS FOR ME?Having decided that yourmain worries are about yourself, have a think aboutwhat other people s concerns might be for you. Yes, they do care!page12DO THEIR CONCERNS MATCH YOURS?CAN YOU UNDERSTAND WHY THEY ARE WORRIED?

6 Parentsteachersfriends HOW DID I GET HERE?We are faced by a number of choices about the way that we behave and the roads that we chose to follow in is a maze representing your time at if you can find the paths that you have chosen to were the other ways you could have gone?Any ideas about what stopped you from taking them?pageB6hurtingsomebody /fightingbullyinggoing toschoolregularlybeing rudetoteachersfollowinginstructions inclassfollowingschoolrulesbringing illegalsubstances toschooltruancyworkingharddisruptingless onsavoidingarguments andfightsHOW DO I RATE?How much control do you feel you have over various aspects of your life?Complete the following rating scale to find Going to school each day1 2 3 4 5 62. Time I get up in the morning1 2 3 4 5 63.

7 What I have to eat1 2 3 4 5 64. The clothes that I wear1 2 3 4 5 65. What time I go to bed1 2 3 4 5 66. Who my friends are1 2 3 4 5 67. My moods1 2 3 4 5 68. How much money I spend1 2 3 4 5 69. What time I come home in the evening1 2 3 4 5 state of health1 2 3 4 5 other people think of me1 2 3 4 5 temper1 2 3 4 5 6pageB9 completely undermy controlcompletely out ofmy controlGOOD THINGS/BAD THINGSFill in the table below as fully as you carefully at the completed table and answer the following questions;1.

8 Can you bring any of the good things more under your control?2. Can you bring any of the bad things under your control?3. How do you intend to make this happen?pageB10good things in my lifebad things in my lifewhich areas a result ofmy ownactionwhich are aresult of thingsoutside my control !!!We all make use of EXCUSES at times to explain our is a list of excuses which you might use to explain what you do at the ones you think you may have used on a regular the two excuses which are your It wasn t my fault!2. We were only having a bit of fun3. You re always picking on me / us!4. They made me do it5. I was bored and there was nothing else to do6. It was an accident!7. I forgot .. I ve got a lot on my mind!8. I couldn t let my mates down could I?9. I m not the only one .. everybody was doing it10. It s just a phase I m going through11.

9 They were asking for it weren t they?12. I just wanted to prove that I could do it13. It seemed like a good idea at the time14. I just didn t think15. They were really annoying me, what do you expect?CAN YOU THINK OF ANY OTHER GOOD ONES?pageB13 HOW CONFIDENT AM I?Give yourself a score of 1-5 for your level of confidence in the following not at all confident 5= extremely confident1. Being watched by lots of people1 2 3 4 52. Smiling at people I don t know very well1 2 3 4 53. Not blushing1 2 3 4 54. Showing my feelings1 2 3 4 55. Understanding what other people are feeling1 2 3 4 56. Keeping a straight face1 2 3 4 57. Going into a room full of people1 2 3 4 58. Joining a group of people already talking1 2 3 4 59. Walking past a crowd looking in my direction1 2 3 4 510.

10 Asking somebody the way1 2 3 4 511. Using a telephone1 2 3 4 512. Asking for help1 2 3 4 513. Giving somebody a compliment1 2 3 4 514. Receiving a compliment1 2 3 4 515. Explaining my feelings to somebody1 2 3 4 516. Being told off by somebody1 2 3 4 517. Expressing my opinions clearly1 2 3 4 518. Asking a question in a meeting or in class1 2 3 4 519. accepting criticism from others 1 2 3 4 520. Complaining about something/ somebody1 2 3 4 521. Apologising1 2 3 4 522. Being asked for an opinion in a group/ class1 2 3 4 523. Saying No when asked to do something I don t agree with1 2 3 4 524. Being interviewed1 2 3 4 525. Asking somebody for a favour1 2 3 4 5 pageB14hitting me hardDifferent situations often lead to the creation of a variety of feelings for all of us.