HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

1 Honesty &ResponsibilityNot making excuses for yourpartner s or your own actions Admitting when you arewrong Keeping your word Not canceling plansTrust &SupportBeing supportive Wantingthe best for your partner Knowing your partner likes you Offering encouragement when necessary Being okay with yourpartner having different friendsIntimacyRespecting your partner s bound-aries Respecting each other sprivacy Not pressuring yourpartner Being faithfulPhysical AffectionHolding hands Hugging Kissing Sitting or standing with your arm onyour partner s shoulder Respectingeach other s right to say no Askingbefore actingFairness &NegotiationAccepting change Beingwilling to compromise Working to find solutions thatare agreeable to both people Agreeing to disagree sometimesSharedResponsibilityMaking decisions together Splitting or alternating thecosts on dates Doing thingsfor each other Going placesyou both enjoy Giving asmuch as you receiveRespectPaying attention to your partner even when your friends are around Valuing your partner s opinion even if it differs from yours Listening to what your part-ner has to sayOpenCommunicationBeing able to express your feelings or opinions Knowingit s okay to disagree Sayingwhat you mean and

2 Meaningwhat you sayHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPEQUALITYWHEELM inimization & BlameNot accepting responsibility foryour actions Making a jokewhen you hurt your partner Telling your partner everythingis his/her fault Acting likeabuse is okay in therelationshipPossessivenessUsing jealousy as a sign of love Accusing your partner of cheat-ing on you Not letting your partnerhave other friends Telling your partnerhow to think, dress, and actSexual AbuseBragging about your sexual relation-ship Comparing your partner to pastpartners Flirting to make your partnerjealous Using drugs/alcohol to get sex Pressuring your partner RapePhysical AbuseHolding your partner so he/she can t leave Slamming him/her into a wall or locker Hurting your partner where bruises don tshow Grabbing Slapping HittingShoving Punching KickingThreatsSaying you can t livewithout your partner Telling your partner you willleave him/her somewhere ifthey don t do what you say Constantly threatening to findsomeone else Saying you willcommit suicide if you break

3 UpDominationTreating your partnerlike a baby, property, orservant Making all the ofdecisions Having expecta-tions that no one can meet Controlling who your partnersees or spends time with Setting all of the rules in therelationshipHumiliationPutting down your partner Calling yourpartner names Constant criticism Making your partner feel like he/sheis crazy Humiliating your partner in front of people Making your partner feelguilty Embarrassing your partnerIntimidationYelling or screaming Usinga threatening tone Talkingdown Threatening to hurtyourself or your partner Making your partner feelafraid Tearing up pic-tures Smashing gifts Destroying objectsUNHEALTHY

4 RELATIONSHIPPOWER & CONTROLWHEELA HEALTHY dating RELATIONSHIP is based on EQUALITY and RESPECT, not power and control. Think about how you treat and want tobe treated by someone you care about. Compare the examples of the Equality Wheel with those on the Power & Control Wheel.