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1 Page iiiHow to Make Anyone Fall in Love with YouLeil LowndesCONTEMPORARY BOOKSA TRIBUNE COMPANYPage ivLibrary of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication DataLowndes, Leil. How to make Anyone fall in love with you / Leil Lowndes. p. bibliographical references and index. ISBN 0-8092-3211-1 1. Love. 2. Man-woman relationships. 3. Intimacy (Psychology) 4. Sexual excitement. I. Title. 1996 dc20 96-14502 CIPJ acket design by Scott RattrayInterior design by Mary LockwoodExcerpt from Obsession:Copyright 1995 by Debra McCarthy-Anderson and Carol Bruce-Thomas. All rights with the permission of the publisher, Harlequin Books 1996 by Leil LowndesAll rights reservedPublished by Contemporary BooksAn imprint of NTC/Contemporary Publishing CompanyTwo Prudential Plaza, Chicago, Illinois 60601-6790 Manufactured in the United States of AmericaInternational Standard Book Number: 0-8092-3211-110 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 Page vTo fulfill the promise of the title, How toMake Anyone Fall in Love with You offers85 techniques based on scientific studies intothe nature of romantic viiCONTENTS1 Anyone ?

2 Yes, Practically Anyone1 Science "Discovers" Sex2 How More Research Was Compiled4 How the Techniques Were Developed5 How I Tested the Techniques72 What Makes People Fall in Love? The Six Elements9 What Makes People Fall in Love? The Six ElementsI. First Impressions9II. Similar Character, Complementary Needs10 III. Equity11IV. Ego12V. Early-Date Gender-Menders13VI. Rx for Sex143 The Physical Side of Falling in Love17"Why Do My Insides Go All Funny?"17"Does Somebody Have to Be Pea-Brained to Fall in Love with Me?"17"Why Do We Fall in Love with One Person and Not Another?"18"How Can These Little Things Start Love?"19 Page viii4 Where Are All the Good Men and Women?23 Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places235 Does Love at First Sight Exist?25 Part One: First Impressions You Never Get a SecondChance at Love at First Sight6 How to Make a Dynamite First Impression29 First Impressions Last Forever29 First Impressions Last Forever29Be Ready for Love Always!30 Stay Psychologically "Fit to Kill"327 How to Ignite Love at First Sight35 How Much Eye Contact Does It Take to Imitate Love?

3 37 How to Get Sexy "Bedroom Eyes"39 How to Awaken Primal, Unsettling, Sexy Feelings in Your Quarry41 Naughty Eyes Are So Nice428 Your First Approach45 The Gentle Art of Pickup (Not for Men Only)45 Hunters, Make the First Move .. Fast46 Huntresses, Make the Fast Move .. First49 First Moves That Work for Women509 Your First Body Language53 Let Your Body Do the Talking53 When You Are Quarry56 The Word That Can Save Your Relationship57"But This Is So Basic!"6010 Your First Conversation61 Conversation Is Making Beautiful Music Together61 Conversation Is Like Making Love62 Conversation Is Like Making Love62 Conversation Is Like Selling62 How to Know What Topics Turn Your Quarry On65 Page ixHow to Fool Your Quarry into Thinking You Two Are Already in Love68 Get Even Closer by Giving the Gift of Intimacy70 Make Your Lifestyle "Fit" Your Quarry's Lovemap7111 Your First Date75 The Game Begins in Earnest75"How Soon Should I Make My Move?"76"Playing Hard to Get Should I, or Shouldn't I?"77 The Scientifically Proved Best First Date79 Give Your Quarry First-Date Butterflies80 Plant the Seeds of Similarity82 First-Date Restaurant Smarts82 Hunters, Some Spit and Polish for Your P's and Q's84 Huntresses, Forgive His Foibles85 First-Date Duds87"I Haven't Got a Thing to Wear"87 Part Two: Similar Character, Complementary Needs IWant a Lover Just Like Dear Old Me (Well, Almost)!

4 Want a Lover Just Like Dear Old Me (Well, Almost)!12 "It's You and Me, Baby, Alone Against This Mad, MadWorld"93 Similarity .. and a Touch of Difference (Just a Touch)9413 How to Establish Subconscious Similarity97 How to Instantly Make Your Quarry Feel, "Why, We're Just Alike!"97 Words to Give Your Quarry "That Family Feeling"98"We Even Speak the Same (Body) Language"10114 How to Establish Conscious Similarity105 The Three Crucial Conscious Similarities105 Let's Talk About Our Relationship Not!11315 How to Establish Complementary Needs117"I Got Just What You Need, Baby"117 Page xPart Three: Ego How Do You Love Me? Let Me Countthe Ways16 The World Revolves Around You, My Quarry123 Ego Massage Is a Highly Skilled Craft12417 Step One: Silent Praise127 Step One: Silent PraiseLet Your Body Do the Praising12718 Step Two: Empathy129"I Can Identify with That!"129 Lovers Share Intimate Details131 Lovers Have Private Jokes13319 Step Three: Admiration137"Oh Honey, You Did an Absolutely Superb Job Slicing TheseMushrooms"13720 Step Four: The Implied Compliment141"You're Much Too Young to Remember This, But.

5 "141 The Bull's-Eye Booster: "I Just Love What You Like About Yourself"14221 Step Five: The Big Guns145"You Are the Most Fascinating Person I've Ever Met"145"What Does Giving a Killer Compliment Do for Me?"14622 Fine-Tuning the Ego Machine149"Wait a Minute. Does Everybody Like Compliments?"149 Knee-Jerk Praise: "What You Just Did Was Fabulous"150 Have the First Laugh151 Lovers Give Each Other Pet Names152 When Your Quarry Praises You153 Page xi23 Keeping the Love Coals Warm155"I Love the Way You Wrinkle Your Nose When You Laugh"155 Part Four: Equity The WIIFM Principle of Love (What'sin It for Me?)24 Everybody's Got a Market Value, Baby161 Why Is Finding Love Like Horse Trading?162 What Currency "Buys" a Good Partner?16325 How Can I Use the Equity Principle to Find Love?167 You Really Don't Want to Marry the Handsome Prince or the BeautifulPrincess167"Why Don't I Want to Marry Up?168"What Happens if Inequity Strikes After We're Married?"17026 How Important Are Looks? 173 What Type of Looks Do Women Like?

6 174 What Type of Looks Do Men Like?175"How Can I Make My Quarry Think I'm Better Looking?"176 How to Beef Up Your Odds on Making the Kill17927 Pursuing Rich and Famous Prey181 Pursuing Rich and Famous PreyThe Look of Money181 The Sound of Class182 What Does the U Crowd Talk About?184 Use Status Words with Status Prey18528 Upping Your Ante in Other AssetsKnowledge, Social Graces, and Inner Beauty Are Tangible Assets187 Page xii29 Help Them Convince Themselves That They Love You189 Let Your Quarry Do Favors for You189 Hey! What About "O Lyric Love, Half Angel and Half Bird"?191 Part Five: Early-Date Gender-Menders Is There LoveAfter Eden?30 "I Hope He or She's Not a Jerk Like All the Others"195"I Want a Man I Can Talk to, a Woman Who Thinks Like a Man"19631 What Is "Man Talk" and What Is "Woman Talk"? (Does ItExist?)19932 "How Do You Feel About That?" 20333 "Excuse Me, Could You Tell Me Where .."207"Excuse Me, Could You Tell Me Where .."34 "Please, Spare Me the Details"20935 "Tell Me (Don't Tell Me) About It"21336 "What's the Best Way to Get from Point A to Point B?

7 "217"A Straight Line!" He Declares; "A Gentle Curve?" She Asks 21737 "Could You Give Me a Hand with This?"22138 Little Words to Win Your Quarry's Heart22539 Are There Dangerous Waters Ahead in the Gender Gap?227 Page xiiiPart Six: Rx For Sex How to Turn On the SexualElectricity40 Your Quarry's Hottest Erogenous Zone23141 No Two Sexualities Are Alike, as No Two Snowflakes AreAlike233 How Do Men's and Women's Sexual Desires Differ?235 Why Are Men's and Women's Fantasies So Different?235 Yet More Differences236 How to Use Differences to Make Your Quarry Fall in Love with You237 How to Use Differences to Make Your Quarry Fall in Love with You23742 Forget the Golden Rule Between the Sheets239 Men in Lust, Women in Love24043 Hunters, Make Love to a Woman as a Woman Wants It243 The One-Hour Lesson That Will Change Your Life243 Another Crash Course in Steamy Sensuality for Men24744 Huntresses, Have Sex with a Man as a Man Wants It253 Let's Go to the Videotape254 Additional ''Coarse'' Materials for Your Raw Sex Curriculum25745 A Quiz: Who Loves More, Men or Women?

8 25946 Your Quarry's Sexual Desires Are as Individual as aThumbprint263 Sex Is Like a Steak266 The Number One Sexual Wish267"Why Did He or She Lose Interest?"268 Page xiv"Is This Woman Enough for Me Sexually for the Rest of My Life?"26947 Huntresses, Become a Sexual Sleuth273 Let Your Quarry Know You're a Sexual Adventurer275 Let Your Quarry Know You're a Sexual Adventurer275 Uncover His Core Fantasies276 Make Your Quarry Feel Safe Sharing His Deepest Desires276 The Hot Purr Follow-Up279Do All Men Have a Sexual Secret?280 Ask Knock-His-Socks-Off Details Questions281 Huntresses, Discover His Trigger Words283 Give Your Quarry Good Bed Rap28648 Hunters, Do These Techniques Work with Women?289 Peel Back Her Layers and Lay Bare Her Deeper Fantasies290 Love Her as She Needs to Be Loved293 Magic Words to Make Her Love You294 Huntresses, Relationship Trigger Words Work for You, Too29549 Finally, Snaring the Confirmed Bachelor297 Why Do Jerrys Want Such Far-Out Sex?299A Walk on the Weird Side30150 On Looking at Other Women30351 The Final Stone Unturned307 Page xvAfterword311 Afterword311 Notes313 About the Author318 Page 11 Anyone ?

9 Yes, Practically Anyone "I don't get I'm attractive, smart, sensitive, accomplished. Why doesn't he or she flip for me?Why can't I find love?" How many times have you beat your fists on the pillow asking yourself thisquestion?You open this book skeptically, yet harboring hope, for the solution. You read the title: How toMake Anyone Fall in Love with You."That's a mighty big promise," you say. Indeed, it is. But the promise of this book is yours if you arewilling to follow a scientifically sound plan to capture the heart of a Potential Love , when history is strewn with broken hearts, do we now claim the means to make someone fallin love with us? Because, after centuries of resistance, science is finally unraveling what romanticlove actually is, what triggers it, what kills it, and what makes it as ancient tribesmen saw an eclipse and thought it was black magic, we looked at love andthought it was enchantment. Sometimes, especially during those first blissful moments when we wantto stop strangers on the street and cry out, "I'm in love!

10 " it may feel like enchantment, but, as weenter the 21stPage 2century, we are discovering that love is a definable and calculable blend of chemistry, biology, andpsychology. (And, well, maybe a little black magic thrown in.)As science sets sail in previously unknown seas, we are at last beginning to understand the rudimentsof that "most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions," as George Bernard Shawdescribed love. And what makes people want to stay in that "excited, abnormal, and exhaustingcondition continuously until death do them part"? The question, and the quandary, of ''Precisely whatis love?" is not new. It is one that has been given serious consideration throughout the ages bycerebral heavyweights like Plato, Sigmund Freud, and Charlie the darkened Broadway theater in 1950, the audiences of South Pacific were in total harmonywith Ezio Pinza when he pondered, "Who can explain it? Who can tell you why? Fools give youreasons. Wise men never try." Well, recently, many wise men and women have tried, andsucceeded.