In This Issue Child Neglect and Food Hoarding

1 October 2010. In This Issue .. Child Neglect and food Hoarding By Charley Joyce, LICSW and Rick Delaney, f fChild Neglect and food Hoarding - - By Charley Joyce, LICSW. and Rick Delaney, f fASpecial Word to our Canadian Friends f fCare-Free Cooking - - Banana Pancakes f fOpportunities f fKids Korner - - October Word Find -- Kids Krafts: Dried Apple Heads food Hoarding is a common Issue apparent reason to continue to hoard displayed by foster-adoptive children. f o o d . U n f o r t u n a t e l y, c h i l d n e g l e c t food Hoarding can be central in a often leaves a Child insecure, seeing Child 's world and resistant to change. himself as unworthy of care and lacking Advanced Parenting Additionally, Hoarding food behavior in a sense of partnership with foster- Workshops can bedevil and bewilder parents. So adoptive parents. They may not feel why does a Child hoard food ?

2 That their foster-adoptive parents are f fAnger & Lying available and sensitive, drawing this - - October 5 th 2 6 th Often food Hoarding is directly connected false conclusion from their previous to significant Neglect that the Child blueprint of being victimized by - - November 2 nd 2 3 rd has experienced in consistently having negligent parenting. To enroll go to their basic needs for life sustaining food denied or inadequately met. As When trying to positively impact food a result, the Child is forced to become Hoarding , we hope to move the Child prematurely self-reliant in meeting their from solitary and secret self-parenting own basic needs. For example, in a behavior to getting needs met within Sound Off ! situation where the parent is chemically a healthy parent- Child relationship. dependent, resulting in inconsistency We want to avoid drawing battle lines The Connections staff wants in providing and having food available, around food .

3 If we lock the pantry, the to hear from you. What do it would be reasonable that when food refrigerator, the kitchen, we create a you like about this monthly is available that a Child would view this mine and yours mentality, one the newsletter? What would as an opportunity. It would be logical Child is ver y familiar with from the you like to see more of? that a survival mentality would develop, past. Designing family interventions Are the articles helpful? causing the Child to respond to the should be preceded by a close look availability of food by overeating or at the Child 's motivation for Hoarding Please email ideas to: Hoarding food . In neglectful situations, food , which is to at all costs avoid food food Hoarding is a wise alternative to deprivation caused by Neglect . ongoing food deprivation. Thank you. What can be confusing and frustrating continued on page 3.

4 To foster-adoptive parents is why food Hoarding continues when the Child is Connections is published by being properly cared for and has no Northwest Media, Inc., for free redistribution by its affiliate agencies and customers. 2010 by Northwest Media, Inc. Find additional resources for foster care and adoption at 1. Connections - October 2010. A Special Word to our Canadian Friends: Happy Thanksgiving! October 12 is Canadian Thanksgiving. This is a celebration of the harvest and is marked with feasting, football and fellowship. We also wish to say Thank you! to Canadian foster families. We hope you enjoy Foster Family Week, October 18-24. Care-Free Cooking Banana Pancakes Ingredients: XX 1 banana XX cup whole wheat flour XX 1 cup white flour XX teaspoon salt XX 1 teaspoon baking powder XX 1 egg XX 1 cup milk XX Vegetable oil for fr ying XX Pancake toppings such as maple syrup, jam, honey, or cinnamon sugar Directions: 1.

5 Cut banana into small (bean-sized) pieces. 5. Brush the pan with vegetable oil and Put into a small bowl and set aside. heat on medium until a few drops of oil 2. Mix flours, salt, and baking powder dropped on the pan sizzle. together in a large mixing bowl 6. Drop large spoonfuls of batter onto the 3. Beat the milk and egg together with a fork. hot pan. Sprinkle with the little pieces of banana. Cook for a few minutes, until the 4. Combine the flour mixture and the egg edges start to become solid, then flip. mixture. Mix well, until no small lumps are Cook another minute or so. Serve. left. R e c i p e f r o m C h e w w i t h y o u r M o u t h F u l l : T h e A r t o f F e e d i n g Yo u r F a c e a v a i l a b l e o n The cookbook was written for young adults who may be shor t on cooking experience and cash. Find additional resources for foster care and adoption at 2.

6 Connections - October 2010. Child Neglect and food Hoarding from page 1. Several examples of interventions that are designed to As with all behavioral and emotional challenges, a Child 's focus on the function of Neglect -based food Hoarding special needs and individual circumstances should be include: considered when designing interventions. Additionally, professional therapeutic assistance can offer help in the food Baskets: Provide food baskets in the home created assessment and treatment of food issues. In an effort to with the Child 's input consisting of snacks that are understand the function of food Hoarding , the following healthy and appealing to the Child . The Child should questions can assist in a parent's understanding of their be told the food baskets will be refilled and are a better Child 's food Hoarding . alternative than Hoarding . If the Child hoards the food basket, set limits, but do not discontinue the basket XX Could there be psychiatric or biological issues idea.

7 Some schools will also cooperate with keeping contributing to the Hoarding ? food baskets in the classroom, especially if the Child is prone to taking other students' snacks. XX Does the Child 's histor y reveal reasons for fixation on eating? Backpacks: When packing lunches for school or events, XX Does the Child substitute a food fixation for a pack a special container of food that can be removed loving relationship with parents? and kept with the Child . This provides a traveling sense XX Are there things that trigger eating problems in the of food security and food availability for the Child . Child ? Coupling Nur turing with Eating: Always positively r einfor ce any pr ogr ess the Child makes in curbing XX Is the Child displaying an emotional neediness in Hoarding behavior. If the Child utilizes a food basket, the way he eats? nur ture the Child when he seeks items from the food basket.

8 Positively comment on how all family members It is important to understand how the Child 's food issues are always fed. Weave this message into mealtimes and impact you as a parent. Become aware of your own have this message commented on by various family food issues and explore if they influence your ability members. or willingness to look at the Child 's problem with an open mind and creative flexibility. Also, study yourself Teach food Regulation: If Child has a tendency to gorge, to deter mine if the Child 's food Hoarding personally set a food time out after a complete meal is consumed. threatens your role as a provider and nurturer. Make certain this applies to all family members. The goal is to assist the Child in learning to experience a sense Delaney and Joyce are coauthors of Behavior With a of fullness. The food time out should not be presented Purpose, which is available through as denying food but rather delaying additional eating com.

9 For a prescribed period of time. Describe the physical sensation of fullness. Fifteen minutes is about how long it takes to feel full. Opportunities Advanced Parenting Workshops allow parents to collaborate to solve a problem. The unique blend of lessons and interactive online exercises bring parents from all over the world together to learn about a serious behavioral challenge, then work together to create an action plan for coping with the behavior. Enroll now for October workshops on Anger and Lying, which Submit your nominations for Champions begin October 5. for Children. This regular column profiles foster parents, advocates, social workers, foster Yes, you CAN reprint ar ticles from this newsletter. care alumni, etc. Please email a sentence or Please notify us of your plans, and on the ar ticle two about your nominees, along with their state the stor y is Reprinted with per mission from contact information, to Lisa at Foster Parent College Connections.

10 Email Lisa at Thanks. Find additional resources for foster care and adoption at 3. ner Kids Kor October 2010. October Word Find Fun Hang this page on your fridge for your children's enjoyment. These are all words that remind of us of autumn. Have fun! Word Key: K C J A N J L E A V E S U F V Y. XX Migrate XX Leaves Q B M L L R D U Z W I N D R D E. XX Geese XX Scarves XX Pumpkins XX Wind A T M B H V O Z T G G I S O Z I. XX Corn XX Frost W P K C X G U C R A D K C S K H. XX Apples XX Cider E X P E G J G K K O Z P A T H P. C O R L L R O E M X V M R F B O. I T M O E X P V E K H U V T H V. D T Y N L S U J I S I P E G O W. E F H Y W R A U P P E O S D T O. R S D E T A R G I M N A X G V T. Kids Krafts Dried Apple Heads This is a fun project that you do now and enjoy later, because it takes about two weeks for the apple head to dr y. It's wor th the wait, though, because apple heads are fun to watch dr y and when they are completely dr y you can use them as toys or decorations.