RESENTMENT INVENTORY PROMPT SHEET - 12 Step

1 One of the requirementsfor sobriety is the need for confession of personality defects, amoral INVENTORY , and step four is designed to be just this. There is a lot of hype and fearsurrounding this step (mostly created by those who are yet to do it), and these worksheetsare designed to make this task as easy and simple as possible. Everything contained inthese sheets is directly from the Big Book 'Alcoholics Anonymous', there is no opinion, justfact. To be able to start on this step, the previous three steps must of course have beencompleted, so beforestarting check with your sponsor, spiritual advisor, counselor, etc.

2 Tomake sure you are people get loaded or act out in some way when they reach this step. Why? Theywill tell you that the pain of dredging up memories long buried was too much to endure, orany one of a thousand other excuses. The plain and simple fact is just this, the pain doesnot come in writing this INVENTORY , the pain comes in resistingthe writing. Alcoholics andaddicts, time after time, would rather get loaded again than have to face some inner freedom from self is made impossible by holding on to fears and secrets we've harboredall our lives, the way of strength, paradoxically, is in becoming vulnerable.

3 Here are some tips to help you with this moral INVENTORY :Try and list resentments in groups, ; Family, school, relationships, work, you are not sure in any area, call somebody and ask them for their into the habit of writing every day, even if it's only for ten the RESENTMENT INVENTORY , don'twrite across, do it in columns, ; ALL names first, ALLcauses second, honest!The only person to truly benefit from this exercise is you, don't cheat yourselfout of this incredible INVENTORY PROMPT SHEETHere is a list of people, institutions and principles that may be helpful in your RESENTMENT INVENTORY .

4 Feel free to add to the lists if you need (Step)Mother (Step)Sisters (Step)Brothers (Step)AuntsUnclesCousinsClergyPoliceLawy ersJudgesDoctorsEmployer'sEmployee'sCo-W orkersIn-LawsHusbandsWivesCreditorsChild hood FriendsSchool FriendsTeachersLife Long FriendsBest FriendsAcquaintancesGirl FriendsBoy FriendsParole OfficersProbation Service FriendsINSTITUTIONSM arriageBibleChurchReligionRacesLawAuthor ityGovernmentEducation SystemCorrectional SystemMental Health SystemPhilosophyNationalityPRINCIPLESGod -DeityRetributionTen CommandmentsJesus ChristSatanDeathLife After DeathHeavenHellSinAdulteryGolden RuleOriginal SinSeven Deadly

5 SinsFEAR INVENTORY PROMPT SHEETHere is a list of fears that may be helpful in your fear free to add to the lists if you need Of GodFear Of DyingFear Of InsanityFear Of InsecurityFear Of RejectionFear Of LonelinessFear Of Disease'sFear Of AlcoholFear Of DrugsFear Of RelapseFear Of SexFear OfSinFear Of Self-ExpressionFear Of AuthorityFear Of HeightsFear Of UnemploymentFear Of EmploymentFear Of ParentsFear Of Losing A WifeFear Of Losing A HusbandFear Of Losing A ChildFear Of AnimalsFear Of InsectsFear Of PoliceFear Of JailFear Of Doctor'sFear Of StealingFear Of CreditorsFear Of Being Found OutFear Of Homosexuals & LesbiansFear Of FailureFear OfSuccessFear Of ResponsibilityFear Of Physical PainFear Of FearFear Of DrowningFear Of MenFear OfWomenFear Of Being AloneFear Of PeopleFear Of CryingFear Of PovertyFear Of RacesFear Of The UnknownFear Of AbandonmentFear Of IntimacyFear Of DisapprovalFear Of RejectionFear Of ConfrontationFear Of SobrietyFear Of HospitalsFear Of ResponsibilityFear Of FeelingsFear Of Getting OldFear Of Hurting OthersFear OfViolenceFear Of

6 Writing InventoryFear Of Being AliveFear Of GovernmentFear Of GangsFear Of GossipFear Of Wealthy PeopleFear Of GunsFear Of ChangeFOURTH STEP INVENTORYRESENTMENTS, FEARS & SEXUAL CONDUCT/HARM DONE TO OTHERSRESENTMENTSP lease read from the bottom of page 63 through page 65 before 1: ResentmentsList all people, places, things, institutions, ideas or principles with whom you are angry, resent, feelhurt or threatened 2: The CauseWhat happened? Be specific as to why you were 3: Affects did it make me feel? Specifically, how did it affect the seven parts of self?

7 Column 4: Where Was I To BlameRead through the second paragraph on page 67 before answering 's the truth here? Where was my responsibility in this relationship? What might I have doneinstead? Where was I at fault?FEARSRead the Big Book, page 67, last paragraph through first paragraph on page your fears. Then write about why you have each fear. Has self-reliance failed you?SEXUAL CONDUCT/HARM DONE TO OTHERSRead carefully Big Book pages , make a list for yourself. What happened in each instance? How did it make you Seven Parts Of Self DefinedSelf Esteem- How I think of myselfPride- How I think others view mePocketbook- Basic desire for money, property, possessions, Relations- Our relations with other peopleAmbition- Our goals.

8 Plans and designs for the futureEmotional Security- General sense of personal well beingSex Relations- Basic drive for sexual intimacySelf EsteemPrideEmotional SecurityPocketbookAmbitionsPersonal RelationsSex RelationsDishonestSelfishSelf-SeekingFri ghtenedInconsiderateJealousySuspicionBit ternessSelfishnessDishonestyInconsiderat eWas this relation-ship selfish?Self-EsteemPrideEmotional SecurityPocketbookAmbitionsPersonal RelationsSex Relations