The Danger of Workplace Gossip - Careerstone Group

1 The Danger of Workplace Gossip By Mary Abbajay It seems so harmless. The little chitchat at the water cooler about so and so. The debate over someone's relation- ship with someone else. The speculation about so and so. Is it chitchat or is it Gossip ? How can you tell the dif- ference? And who cares? There is a very big difference, and it is an important one, because Gossip run amok can be dangerous and destructive in the Workplace . Gossip or idle chit chat? results in employees second-guessing each other and ultimately running to the supervisor to clarify the So how does one tell the difference between idle directions or instructions, or to settle the differences chatter or Gossip ?

2 While idle chit-chat and other light that will arise. Gossip is the death of teamwork as conversation can be value neutral, Gossip is often the Group breaks up into cliques and employees start negative, inflammatory and embarrassing to the per- refusing to work with others. son being spoken of. Here is a test: Consider the im- pact of what is being said. Does it cast negative as- Gossip results in the supervisor spending an enor- persions? Does it create rifts? Does it exult in the mous amount of time trying to figure out who said misfortune of others? Does it have a negative emo- what to whom.

3 Or, worse yet, the supervisor strug- tional charge? Does it serve to perpetuate conflict or gles to explain to the manager that the on-going con- negativity? Is it hurtful or damaging? Is it something flicts and communication problems within the work- you would say in front of that person? Group are the reason work doesn't get done only to hear the manager comment, "Why can't you manage Technically, any sharing of trivial or unsubstantiated your team better?" Productivity is lost, as are good information can be considered Gossip . But you have employees who do not want to work in that toxic en- to consider the sentiment.

4 For example, if it were vironment. rumored that a coworker is being promoted, and you discuss it with a coworker, is that Gossip ? If the dis- cussion is hurtful or damaging or negative, then yes, Breaking the Gossip cycle it is Gossip . But if it's value neutral then it's not. If Let's say you are not a gossiper. You simply listen to the story is told with negativity and without good your coworkers so as not be rude. You've been will, then it is Gossip . taught to be a team player right? But here's the thing that most people don't realize as a listener, you are Gossip hurts a co-narrator to the Gossip .

5 In other words, the act of active listening actually supports and promotes gos- Gossip can have many adverse side effects on an or- siping. The more you listen, the more you encourage ganization. It can increase conflict and decrease mo- it. If you don't listen, the Gossip has nowhere to go. rale. It results in strained relationships. Gossip Think about the last time you told a story to someone breaks down the trust level within the Group , which 1. who was clearly not interested. The story probably What the employer can do withered on the vine. Gossip is as old as man- kind.

6 It is unrealistic to Here's how to get out of the Gossip pipeline: think we could free the 1. Be busy. Gossipmongers want attention. If you're Workplace of Gossip . It's preoccupied with your work, you can't be avail- also conducted through able to listen to their latest story. the free will of employ- 2. Don't participate. Walk away from the story. ees, and regulating that is Don't give visual clues that you are interested in very difficult without cre- listening. If someone passes a juicy story on to ating a big brother cli- you, don't pass it any further. Take personal re- mate.

7 That being said, sponsibility to act with integrity. there are some things that employers can do to 3. Turn it around by saying something positive. It minimize negative gossiping and rumormonger: isn't nearly as much fun to spread negative news Communicate regularly and consistently with if it's spoiled by a complimentary phrase about employees about what's going on in the work- the person being attacked place. Regular communication minimizes the 4. Avoid the gossiper. If you notice one person who influence and need for Gossip , because everyone consistently makes trouble, take the necessary is "in-the-know.

8 " If employees don't have good actions to have as little interaction with that per- information from the supervisor about what is son as possible. Avoid him/her. going on, they will make it up in the form of 5. Keep your private life private. Don't trust per- speculation and Gossip . Consistent and authentic sonal information with coworkers. Remember, if communication will work wonders in stopping they are gossiping about others, they will Gossip the Gossip . about you, too. Don't give them ammunition. 6. Choose your friends wisely at work. You spend a Discourage Gossip in official company policy.

9 Good deal of time at work so it's natural for Include a section that deals with Gossip in the friendships to develop. Share information spar- company handbook. Convey to your employees ingly until you are sure that you have built up a that such talk is injurious to morale and produc- level of trust. Also, close association with gos- tivity and will not be tolerated. Ask them not to sipers will give the perception that you are a gos- participate and not to tolerate it from others. siper. Nip it in the bud. If an employee comes to you 7. Be direct. If you confront the gossiper and confi- complaining of Gossip , or if you know an em- dently tell him or her that such behavior is mak- ployee to be a Gossip , be proactive.

10 Tell the of- ing it uncomfortable for you and other cowork- fender that you are aware of his behavior. De- ers, it's likely to stop. scribe how his behavior results in others not 8. Don't be afraid to go to a superior. Gossiping trusting them. For some, this single statement wastes a lot of company time and hurts morale. A will be a realization that will result in immediate company interested in a healthy work environ- change. Furthermore, incorporate the impact the ment will value the opportunity to correct this gossiping employee's behavior has had on the type of situation.