TO THRIVER - ASCA

1 SURVIVOR TO THRIVER Manual and workbook for adult survivors of child abuse who want to move on with life Survivor to THRIVER , Page 1 1995 THE MORRIS CENTER, Revised 7/99, THE MORRIS CENTER for healing from child abuse PO Box 281535 San Francisco .CA . 94128 phone: 415 .937 1854 e-mail: website: 1995 THE NORMA J. MORRIS CENTER for healing from child abuse All rights reserved, including the right of reproduction In whole or in part in any form. Revised 10/95, 7/96, 7/99, 11/06, 5/15 The information and program contained herein are not intended to be psychotherapy or to substitute for consultation with a licensed health or mental health professional.

2 Application of the contents is at the reader's sole discretion. Survivor to THRIVER , Page 2 1995 THE MORRIS CENTER, Revised 7/99, TABLE OF CONTENTS About THE MORRIS CENTER .. 5 Chapter One: The ASCA Step Work Program Introduction .. 7 Step Work, ASCA-Style .. 8 Responsible Recovery, Responsible Therapy .. 11 Chapter Two: Safety First! Introduction .. 17 Safety Checklist .. 19 Suicide/Harmful Behavior Checklist .. 20 Creating Your Plan For Safety First! .. 21 Awareness_Assessment_Action .. 21 Building Your Support System .. 24 Identifying Your Support Network .. 24 ASCA Colleagues.

3 25 Resolving Abusive Relationships First .. 25 Personal Relationships Checklist .. 26 Stabilizing Your Life .. 27 Crisis "Hot Spots" Checklist .. 28 Self-Soothing Activities .. 31 Living Safety First! _ A Final Note .. 33 Chapter Three: Assessing Child Abuse Introduction .. 35 What Is Child Abuse? .. 36 Physical Abuse .. 36 Sexual Abuse.. 39 Emotional Abuse .. 42 What Are The Adult Repercussions of Child Abuse? .. 47 Relationship Problems .. 48 Low Self-Esteem .. 49 Self-Sabotage .. 51 Sexual Problems .. 53 Symptoms of Trauma .. 55 Physical Ailments .. 57 Social Alienation .. 59 Handling Feelings.

4 Conclusion .. 63 Survivor to THRIVER , Page 3 1995 THE MORRIS CENTER, Revised 7/99, TABLE OF CONTENTS Chapter Four: Stage One Remembering Stage One: Remembering .. 65 Step One.. 66 Step Two.. 69 Step Three.. 72 Step Four.. 75 Step Five .. 77 Step Six.. 79 Step Seven .. 82 Chapter Five: Stage Two Mourning Stage Two: Mourning.. 85 Step Eight .. 86 Step Nine..88 Step Ten..90 Step Eleven.. 92 Step Twelve ..94 Step Thirteen.. 97 Step Fourteen.. 99 Chapter Six: Stage Three Healing Stage Three: Healing.. 101 Step Fifteen .. 102 Step Sixteen .. 103 Step Seventeen .. 105 Step Eighteen.

5 107 Step Nineteen .. 110 Step Twenty .. 111 Step Twenty-One .. 114 ASCA Stages & Steps .. 115 Survivor to THRIVER , Page 4 1995 THE MORRIS CENTER, Revised 7/99, ABOUT THE MORRIS CENTER A non-profit 501(c)(3) public benefit corporation, THE MORRIS CENTER was founded in 1991 (as the Adult Survivors of Incest Foundation) to provide individual and group sliding scale psychotherapy and low-cost educational and self-help programs for adult survivors of sexual abuse. In November 1993 the name of the organization was changed to The Norma J. Morris Center for healing from child abuse.

6 This changed reflected the fact that its programs had expanded to serve survivors of physical and emotional, as well as sexual, abuse, and to honor the organization's co-founder and principal benefactor, Norma Morris. In 1994, perceiving an increased need for cost-effective, easily replicable programs, THE MORRIS CENTER shifted its primary focus to our ASCA support program and discontinued its psychotherapy program. ASCA began to take shape in January, 1993, when George J. Bilotta, , THE MORRIS CENTER's Executive Director, asked J. Patrick Gannon, , to develop his ideas for a "second generation" self-help group for adult survivors of child abuse.

7 This edition of the Survivor to THRIVER manual is an updated and expanded edition of Dr. Gannon's book: Soul Survivors: A New Beginning for Adults Abused as Children along with additional material from our unpublished manual The ASCA Workbook. In February, 1993, the ASCA Leadership Council, composed of volunteers interested in developing the new program, started to create the Stage One meeting format, program guidelines and Co-Facilitator responsibilities. The first ASCA meeting was held in May 1993, in San Francisco. ASCA has continued to evolve and has become a powerful and effective support program for adult survivors of child abuse.

8 In September 1999, THE MORRIS CENTER began to promote the ASCA program nationally through the World Wide Web. It is our desire and hope that through this efficient and cost effective avenue, ASCA will become available to survivors of child abuse throughout the country and world. Survivor to THRIVER , Page 5 1995 THE MORRIS CENTER, Revised 7/99, Survivor to THRIVER , Page 6 1995 THE MORRIS CENTER, Revised 7/99, Chapter One ASCA Step Work Program INTRODUCTION Welcome to our Survivor to THRIVER manual! The Norma J. Morris Center for Healing from Child Abuse (or THE MORRIS CENTER), in collaboration with J.

9 Patrick Gannon, , THE MORRIS CENTER's former Clinical Consultant, has created this manual as part of its program of services for adult survivors of physical, sexual and emotional child abuse. Virtually since ASCA began in 1993, participants have asked for a workbook or manual to be used as part of their recovery process. In his 1989 book SOUL SURVIVORS: A New Beginning for Adults Abused as Children, Dr. Gannon outlined a three-stage alternative recovery model that was the blueprint for ASCA, but that book is no longer in print.

10 Consequently, THE MORRIS CENTER has taken portions of Dr. Gannon's earlier writings, revised and updated them to reflect the ASCA program as it operates today and added significant explanatory material. The result is before you. This manual is designed to complement your ASCA meeting participation. Use it individually, but as a supplement to regular ASCA meeting attendance. Of course, you are welcome to bring your manual to meetings with you, but you will not find any exercises or sections that are specifically keyed to meeting participation.