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1 BodyLanguageFORDUMmIES 01_512913 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page i01_512913 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page iiby Elizabeth KuhnkeBodyLanguageFORDUMmIES 01_512913 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page iiiBody Language For Dummies Published byJohn Wiley & Sons, LtdThe AtriumSouthern GateChichesterWest SussexPO19 8 SQEnglandE-mail (for orders and customer service enquires): our Home Page on 2007 John Wiley & Sons, Ltd, Chichester, West Sussex, EnglandPublished by John Wiley & Sons, Ltd, Chichester, West SussexAll Rights Reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or trans-mitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, scanning or other-wise, except under the terms of the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 or under the terms of alicence issued by the Copyright Licensing Agency Ltd, 90 Tottenham Court Road, London, W1T 4LP, UK,without the permission in writing of the Publisher.

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6 For over20 years, Elizabeth has worked with individuals and groups to bolster theirpersonal impact and communication skills. Before moving to Britain, Elizabeth acted throughout the United States on thestage, radio, and television. In addition to designing and delivering universityprogrammes in voice and movement, she also taught acting skills to studentsand professionals. In the United Kingdom, Elizabeth applies her theatrical expertise and psycho-logical insight with a rock-solid business approach. She works at top levelwith FTSE 100 companies and leading professional firms to provide both one-to-one and group coaching in key areas relating to interpersonal commu-nication and image projection.

7 Coming from diverse backgrounds includingaccountancy, law, and telecommunications, Elizabeth s clients consistentlyachieve their goals and have fun getting there. Her keys to communicationare based on the simple principle of demonstrating respect, establishing rapport, and achieving highly entertaining speaker, Elizabeth is a popular choice on the conferencecircuit, and is often quoted in the media addressing issues concerning confi-dence, voice, body Language , and communication skills all the ingredientsthat create a positive impact.

8 For further information about Elizabeth, visit her Web site at 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page v01_512913 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page viDedicationTo Mom for fortitude, finances, and Dad for presence, perseverance, and all those love you s AcknowledgementsWithout friends, family, clients, and colleagues encouraging, nurturing, andspurring me along, this book would not now be in your hands. Allow me, ifyou will, to acknowledge but a small sampling of the support Author s Angels: Kate Burton, my buddy and fellow For Dummiesauthorwho believed I was the person for the job; Alison Yates who stuck with mewhen lesser mortals would have tossed in the towel; and Rachael Chilvers,whose marvellous cheerios brightened many a dark and dreary Todd.

9 An extraordinary coach and valued Beery and Maria Jicheva who opened my eyes to Ginger and Jean Roberts for photos and of my clients. You re stars. Keep breathing. Toby Blundell who keeps me on track and makes me laugh. Karl, Max, and Kristina. My joys. Henry, ever faithful, always for the rest of the gang, you ll find yourselves within these pages. I amblessed to know you 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page viiPublisher s AcknowledgementsWe re proud of this book; please send us your comments through our Dummies online registrationform located at of the people who helped bring this book to market include the following:Acquisitions, Editorial, and MediaDevelopmentProject Editor: Rachael ChilversDevelopment Editor:Tracy BarrContent Editor:Steve EdwardsCommissioning Editor:Alison YatesCopy Editor: Anne O RorkeProofreader:Andy FinchTechnical Editor: Dr Peter BullExecutive Editor: Jason DunneExecutive Project Editor: Daniel MerseyCover Photo.

10 GettyImages/Tony AndersonPhotography:Ginger Photography : Rich Help:Jennifer BinghamComposition ServicesProject Coordinators: Erin Smith, Jennifer TheriotLayout and Graphics: Barbara Moore, Brent Savage, Rashell Smith, Alicia B. South, Christine WilliamsProofreaders: John Greenough, Melanie HoffmanIndexer:Claudia BourbeauPublishing and Editorial for Consumer DummiesDiane Graves Steele, Vice President and Publisher, Consumer DummiesJoyce Pepple, Acquisitions Director, Consumer DummiesKristin A. Cocks, Product Development Director, Consumer DummiesMichael Spring, Vice President and Publisher, TravelKelly Regan,Editorial Director, TravelPublishing for Technology DummiesAndy Cummings,Vice President and Publisher, Dummies Technology/General UserComposition ServicesGerry Fahey,Vice President of Production ServicesDebbie Stailey,Director of Composition Services01_512913 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page viiiContents at a GlanceIntroduction.