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1 Curriculum COAC H C ER T I FI C AT I O N. PROGRAM. Curriculum COAC H C E R T I F I C AT I O N. PROGRAM. CONTENTS. How to Coach Yourself 5 Emotional Childhood 131. Holding The Space 15 The Manual 139. Story vs. Fact 23 Boundaries 149. Thoughts: The Cause 31 Unconditional Love 157. The Power of Questions 39 Lovability 165. Coaching Tips 43 Relationships 167. Model Tips 45 Outcome & Goal Cultivation 171. The 45 Minute Session 49 Past & Future Focus 181. Feelings 53 How to Get It Done 189. How to Process Pain 67 Money 197. Stop Buffering 73 Self Confidence 205. Stop Overeating 79 Elevator Technique 213. Stop Overdrinking 103 Glossary 217. COACH CERTIFICATION PROGRAM | Curriculum | 3. COACH CERTIFICATION PROGRAM | Curriculum | 4. HOW TO COACH YOURSELF. At The Life Coach School, we train exceptional coaches, and it all starts with learning how to coach yourself.

2 That's right, you are your first client. Mastering the Self Coaching Model by using it on yourself is not only good practice; it's absolutely necessary to help your clients achieve life-changing results. Learning how to coach yourself will open the door to possibilities you didn't even know existed. You'll discover how your thinking is creating everything in your life and why that is the best news ever. Mastering the skill of self coaching is the best gift you can give yourself and your clients. Are you ready? Let's do it! COACH CERTIFICATION PROGRAM | Curriculum | 5. THE MODEL. The coaching philosophy you'll learn in this program is called causal coaching.. Life coaching isn't about treating the symptoms of pain or shortcomings it's about finding the root cause of each symptom, understanding it, and then helping clients change it to make room for new seeds of success and fulfillment.

3 This is where the Model comes in. Brooke Castillo created the Model as a daily tool that she herself could use to implement all the great things she had learned from forward thinkers such as byron Katie, Eckhart Tolle, and Abraham. All of our certified coaches use the Model not only to coach themselves but also to get to the root of their clients' issues. Every issue we encounter in our lives can be broken down into five interrelated components, with changes in one component affecting the others. Understanding how this works gives you, as the coach, greater insight. No matter what issue your client brings to you, you can pinpoint the cause and begin coaching there. When you understand each of these components, you can clearly identify the problem your client is experiencing and decide which category it fits into.

4 Then you can use your coaching inquiry skills to uncover the root cause of the problem and build a picture of what's going on in each of the other components. COACH CERTIFICATION PROGRAM | Curriculum | 6. This is because our thoughts about our circumstances cause our feelings, which in turn cause our actions, and ultimately create results in our lives. For example, your client might be concerned about overspending. This fits into the action component of the Model. Then you'll know you need to uncover the thought and feeling causing the action. The thought I'm not pretty enough, and a new dress will help me feel prettier leads to a feeling (sad) that leads to an action (overspending) that leads to a result. Let's break down each component and continue to explore examples. The five components of the Model are: Circumstances Thoughts Feelings Actions Results COACH CERTIFICATION PROGRAM | Curriculum | 7.

5 C I R C U M S TA N C E S. Circumstances are things outside our control. These include other people, our past, and the weather. Sometimes we forget that we can't control these things, so we expend energy trying to control other people or change our past. As frustrating as this can be, there is good news. While we can't control our circumstances, we can control everything else, including what we decide to think and how we feel and behave. Circumstances can be proven in a court of law and are facts that everyone would agree upon at any given time. As your clients describe a problem or situation to you, they will include very few circumstances, but they may not realize this. They may think they're just relaying the facts, but in reality, they're their thoughts instead. For example, perhaps your client is struggling with juggling motherhood every day.

6 As she tells you about it, she might say, Well, I just don't have time for things I want to do because I have to take care of my kids. This feels like a fact or a circumstance to her, but it's actually her thought about the circumstance. She does not, in fact, have to take care of her kids many people don't. In addition, I don't have time . is only her perception. We all have the same amount of time and can do with it as we choose, but there will never be more or less time. When you point this out to her, she may resist the idea that these are only thoughts because they feel like circumstances and she's had these thoughts for a long time. The only actual circumstance we've identified is that the client has children. Pointing out this difference to your clients and noticing it for yourself is very empowering and can change everything.

7 COACH CERTIFICATION PROGRAM | Curriculum | 8. THOUGHTS. As humans, we give meaning to our circumstances through our thoughts, which are the sentences that constantly run through our minds. Sometimes we're aware of our thoughts, but often we aren't. Examples include, I'm not good enough or My boss doesn't appreciate my work. We can't change our circumstances, but we can change our thoughts about them. The root cause of any problem is always our thinking. It's not the circumstance, but the way we think about it. It's not our feelings, but rather the thought that created the feeling. It's not our behavior, but our thoughts and feelings that resulted in the action or behavior. Our thoughts directly create the results we experience in our lives. Therefore, the cause of our problem is not the unwanted results, but the thoughts that led to those unwanted results.

8 The client's current thinking is what creates their current life, so we begin there. Differentiating thoughts from circumstances will be an important first step for you in self coaching and in coaching your clients. Remember that circumstances are court of law factual, while thoughts are subjective, may change from person to person, and are not true all the time. For example, It's 85 degrees outside is a circumstance, while It's hot outside is a thought because some people might not agree that 85 degrees is hot. COACH CERTIFICATION PROGRAM | Curriculum | 9. FEELINGS. Feelings are the emotions or vibrations we experience in our bodies, and they're directly related to the thoughts we're thinking. Examples include anger, sadness, and excitement. Don't confuse feelings with physical, involuntary sensations such as hunger, cold, reflexes, and physical pain.

9 Emotions are voluntary because we can change what we feel by changing our thoughts. We often think that our feelings come from our circumstances. We say things like, My husband didn't take out the trash (circumstance), so I'm very angry (feeling).. Or we say, My best friend is in town (circumstance), so I'm very excited (feeling).. But the truth is, our feelings come from our thoughts. Because we have over forty thousand thoughts a day, we're not consciously aware of them all, but they are the reasons for every feeling we have. When your husband forgets to take out the trash, you have thoughts such as, Now, I have to do it, and I don't want to! He never pulls his weight around here! These thoughts are what give you feelings of anger, not the circumstance itself. ACTIONS. Actions refer to behavior, reaction, or inaction, and they're directly related to our feelings.

10 Examples include eating when we're not hungry because we're feeling lonely, avoiding interaction with the boss because we're feeling anger, and withdrawing from relationships because we're feeling sad. If we want different actions, we can choose different feelings. C O A C H C E R T I F I C A T I O N P R O G R A M | C U R R I C U L U M | 10. Sometimes actions are subtle, such as a change in the tone of your voice. Or it might be inaction, such as avoiding certain people or situations. Many of us think we're able to hide our true feelings when necessary and choose how we act despite them. Sometimes we do, but in the end, our most effective actions come from positive feelings. When our actions are inauthentic, we come across differently to others. When we manage our thinking and take action from the feelings we want to have, we can change behaviors for the long term and create amazing results in our lives.