Explaining Theories of Interpersonal Communication

1 3 Explaining Theoriesof InterpersonalCommunicationIt s difficult to imagine a profession that doesn t require you to interactwith other people. You likely use Interpersonal Communication everyday to handle complaints from a demanding client, to persuade yourboss to give you some time off, or to comfort a friend dealing with adifficult relationship. This chapter explains a variety of interpersonalcommunication Theories , including those that explain how relation-ships are initiated and developed, Theories of how relationships aremaintained over time, and Theories that explain why and what to dowhen people behave in ways that are unexpected.

2 Interpersonal Communication DEFINEDI nterpersonal Communication (IPC) has been defined many scholars define IPC based on the situation and number of parti-cipants involved ( , Miller, 1978). Using Miller s definition, IPC50 9/16/2004 12:31 PM Page 50occurs between two individuals when they are close in proximity,able to provide immediate feedback and utilize multiple senses. Othersdefine IPC based on the degree of personalness, or perceived quality,of a given interaction ( , Peters, 1974).

3 In Peters s view, IPC includescommunication that is personal and occurring between people who aremore than acquaintances. Another view of IPC is a goals approach; that is,IPC includes Communication used to define or achieve personal goalsthrough interaction with others ( , Canary, Cody, & Manusov, 2003).For the purpose of examining Interpersonal communicationtheory, we argue that IPC encompasses a number of these Communication includes those messages that occurbetween two, interdependent persons; IPC messages are offered to ini-tiate, define, maintain, or further a relationship.

4 Interpersonal commu-nication is more than just saying a polite hello to the salesclerk in ourfavorite department store and then scurrying away never to be seenagain. Instead, it refers both to the content and qualityof messagesrelayed and the possibility of further relationship development. Wepresent four Theories in this chapter that are critical to current under-standings of Interpersonal Communication and the relationships thatdevelop from these communications. First, the systems perspectivetakes an interactional view of relationship maintenance by focusing onrepeated and interdependent dealings.

5 The second theory, politenesstheory, clarifies the strategies individuals use to maintain their face or sense of desired public image. Third, social exchange theory evalu-ates relationships on the basis of rewards and costs; this ratio of bene-fits to drawbacks explains whether a relationship will continue as wellas whether partners will feel satisfied. Fourth, the dialectical perspec-tive describes the contradictions individuals inevitably face withintheir personal relationships and explains how management of thesecontradictions can predict a relationship s success or failure.

6 SYSTEMS PERSPECTIVER ather than one specific theory, systems approaches are a constellationof Theories that share common assumptions and concepts. Although wehave classified this approach as an Interpersonal Communication theory,in reality systems Theories are used to explain nearly all communicationcontexts, including small group and organizational Theories of Interpersonal Communication 9/16/2004 12:31 PM Page 51 The core of all systems approaches is a focus on the interdependencethat develops whenever people interact with each other.

7 In this chapter,we focus on some common assumptions of systems perspectives andthen the axioms of one specific approach, the work of the Palo of the Systems PerspectiveA central assumption of systems approaches is that communica-tion is the means by which systems are created and sustained (Monge,1973). In addition, systems approaches provide both macro and microapproaches to studying the Communication that takes place in relation-ships. As a macro approach, systems approaches allow for a recognitionof how larger social institutions (such as a company or, larger still, anational culture) might influence smaller groups of people such as workgroups or families.

8 As a micro approach, systems Theories provide a wayto understand how individuals and Interpersonal relationships betweenindividuals might influence the group as a whole. In short, systemsapproaches center on the mutual influence between system members, aswell as between subsystems, systems, and , of course, we have to define what is meant by the term sys-tem. Asystemis a group of individuals who interrelate to form a whole(Hall & Fagen, 1968). Examples of systems are a family, a work group,and a sports team.

9 Any time that a group of people has repeated inter-action with each other, they represent a system. Systems are embed-ded in a hierarchy, with systems existing within other systems (Pattee,1973). Accordingly, a subsystemis a smaller part of the group as awhole: the defensive line of a football team or the parents in a the larger system within which the system operates:the National football league is a suprasystem for an individual foot - ball team, and the extended kinship network would be a suprasystemfor a nuclear than simply focusing on these sorts of interrelationships,however, there are several assumptions inherent in systems Theories believe in nonsummativity,which means that thewhole is greater than the sum of its parts (Fisher, 1978).

10 Think of yourfavorite sports teams. Some sports teams have few superstars, butwhen they work together, they win a lot of games. On the other hand,some teams have big-name athletes, but as systems, these teams52 APPLYING Communication THEORY FOR PROFESSIONAL 9/16/2004 12:31 PM Page 52are not successful. From a systems perspective, individuals in andof themselves don t make or break the system. Instead, the systemas a whole might work together to create more than what might beaccomplished by those individuals alone.