The Drama Triangle - christianeducational.org

1 The Drama TriangleThe Drama TrianglePersecutor (Villain)VictimRescuerThe Standard RolesThe Standard RoleslThe persecutor or villain victimizes the victimlThe victim struggles in the persecution and seeks to be rescuedlThe rescuer enters, defeats the villain and saves the victimPVRThe PersecutorThe PersecutorlHas a great need to be dominant, recognized as superior; fears loss of control, prestige, image, himself to have been a victim and protects himself from ever being one againlYou can find a persecutor by tracking his victimsThe VictimThe VictimlNeeds validation and affirmation; a great need to be rescued by someone or somethinglAvoids taking responsibility; everything is out of his controllPostures himself to be rescued, but then turns on the rescuer and sees him as another persecutorlThe cycle of abuse; victim becomes persecutorThe RescuerThe RescuerlThe Messiah complex; the downside of being Christ like lHas a character weakness: a great need to be needed; may feel insignificant without a victim to rescue.

2 Adrenalin junkielCan get out of his depth or ability and can drown, becoming a victim himselflDirect the victims to the real rescuer: ChristEnhancing the DramaEnhancing the DramalRole reversals create more dramalThe victim becomes the persecutorlThe rescuer becomes the victimlThe persecutor becomes the rescuer PVRV ictim to PersecutorVictim to PersecutorlThe victim becomes the villain and persecutes the rescuerlThe victim s need for deliverance is too great and the rescuer failslThe victim judges the failed rescuer as being another persecutor, and begins persecuting himlThe essence of evil is scapegoatingothersRescuer to VictimRescuer to VictimlHe fails just like all the restlHe must now bear the brunt of all the past failures as if they were his fault alsolThis is a very subtle trap for ministersPersecutor to RescuerPersecutor to RescuerlThe hardest to acceptlPaul is the classic caselForgiving abusive people is a long, slow process with many small victories to restore trustHow to Diminish the DramaHow to Diminish the DramalThat may be impossible in a fallen world; we hate to be boredlLearn to deallHold the victim responsible as much as possiblelForgive the persecutor/villain; the failed rescuer; this defuses the dramalAvoid being too much of a persecutor, victim, or rescuer; the 50% li